Then he uses your anger against you to prove what an irrational person you are. You may develop physical or emotional reactions to swallowing your anger, such as depression, nightmares, emotional numbing, or eating and sleeping problems, which your partner may use as an excuse to belittle you further or make you feel crazy.” ― Lundy Bancroft, “Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?
Has he ever raised a fist as if he were going to hit you?
9/24/2013 “Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.” For that means that no matter how unhappy your marriage is, you can be happy as an individual – Dale Carnegie The following was recently by Daniel: “PEOPLE WHO HAVE EITHER BEEN TREATED BADLY OR ABUSED AS A CHILD MAY OR MAY NOT END UP BEING THE ABUSER WHEN THEY GET OLDER, OTHERS THAT SUFFER FROM THE ABUSE MIGHT SUFFER ANXIETY OR MAY NOT BE ABLE TO LIVE THERE NORMAL LIVES AGAIN.” – DANIEL ARMSTRONG ________________________________________ If you wish to have what you want in life you must Focus on the Dream, if you focus on the pain and fear you will only want to scream! Burns Long term domestic violence: Being abused in this manner is like being kidnapped and tortured for ransom but you will never have enough to pay off the kidnapper. I know that men are abused by women and write about it on this blog often and never meant to exclude them in this quote.
When I am asked why a man/woman doesn’t leave abuser I say: They stay because the fear of leaving is greater than the fear of staying.
This becomes our way of life.”"I was heart broken, scared, I had a lot of anxiety, I was worried, I felt weak, and I had no idea how I was ever going to come up with the strength. I knew I had to get out of there.""Alone in my room, wrapped in a blanket, I whimpered and talked aloud to myself, recalling the lost glory of my youth when I considered myself, and was considered by others, a bright and capable person.""But even when I stop crying, even when we fall asleep and I'm nestled in his arms, this will leave another scar.
Every day, young people navigate relationships - crushes, breakups, sexuality, firsts, and hook ups - but they don’t always have the space to talk about them, learn about them, or share their experiences.
They will leave when the fear of staying is greater than the fear of leaving. Burns Several blog readers posted this recently and I wanted to share it.