While we were together, Ben was a lost little lamb in the woods; scared, full of doubt, directionless.
I remember being a little lamb myself in my mid-twenties.
Because this isn’t something to take lightly; there’s more than just you and he involved. If you value your sleep and aren’t a morning person, then hearing the TV on full blast or a toy train whistle or a crate of Lego hitting the floor at 6 a.m. They’re also playful and not worried about looking silly, be it cheesy jokes or knowing all the words to Taylor Swift‘s songs. With kids around (on his kid days), there won’t be any loud, crazy sex on the kitchen counter, or last-minute decisions to go away for a romantic weekend.
If he shares custody with his ex, he likely has every other weekend free. They are always in the picture and spontaneity becomes a thing of the past.
Instead, find a guy who gets your blood racing, not boiling over.