If Mary Kate or Ashley was approachable and not icy fashion prodigies, I would love to ask how they make it work. After it ended, he talked to a lot of people about our relationship -- and what happened through the grapevine was unexpected. Women judged me as having an ulterior, economic motive: “She just dated him for his money,” or “She thought she could get ahead.” In our society people are so quick to judge a young, naïve woman -- never the older man who perhaps should’ve known better too. I have a friend who’s been married to someone for more than a decade who is 20 years older than her.
In my case, the age gap was actually a cavernous black hole defying space and time. Another lesson in dating: a fling with someone in your professional/personal circle is more often than not bad news. He’s old and sick now, and she takes care of him (even financially), but she’s still partying and sleeping around. I sometimes imagine what would have happened if I had stayed with my older man.
That sounds dramatic; don’t forget how it actually looks…
We have endless and effortless conversations about the myriad interests we share, he's hilarious (and he thinks I am too), we share the same values in life, I feel like I can be 100% myself with him. Let me be clear, I'm not drawn to him because he "fathers me." I have a great, solid relationship with my dad and have no issues there.
I know he's not old enough to really be my father, but he's up there.
We've made our position known and shared the thoughts and experiences of the women to whom we talked. One important question we asked was what they felt an older woman has to offer.
Here are some answers which are clear, articulate and to the point.
They will never trust him if he’s 10-plus years your senior, no matter what he does to gain their approval along the way.