If you ask me, Barney didn't do a good enough job because by my mid-20s, I'm finding it really hard to makes new friends — at least ones that lasted past the third drink.
Making friends is a lot like dating: Things seemed easier in college.
In college, you are surrounded by an endless supply of potential friends: your roommate, others in your dorm hall, classmates, clubs, and intramurals. Adams says in an interview for the that as we get older, it’s harder to find the three conditions necessary for a friendship to blossom: proximity, repeated and unplanned interactions, and a setting that lets you confide in each other.
But once you graduate, making friends becomes a lot harder, and potential friends seem much more scarce. The podcast “This American Life” recently featured a story about a man who was trying to set up his friend with another potential friend.
The story chronicled their nervousness and apprehension before meeting (“What are we going to talk about?
How hard it is to find someone to share your days with, how difficult it is to meet someone normal and how confusing it is to sleep with someone you can't read.