“But, I thought that meant she would make the first move.”I still claim my laugh was of the gentle, accepting variety.“You sound like Ursula the Sea-witch,” she said. ”My friend isn’t some recently-out nineteen-year-old. She’s had her share of long term relationships; she’s been to the Michigan Women’s Festival, for Christ sake.
If she doesn’t know this Basic Lesbian Truth, then what’s to become of all the 20-year-olds stumbling from bar to Okcupid profile, donning Hanes when they prefer Agent Provocateur; shocked when that chick who fronts like Don Draper morphs into Katie Holmes in bed? Possibly there are some circumstances under which a list becomes unnecessary.
For example, my itemized catalogue of Sexual Positions: Best to Worst did not always go over well when I was on the dating scene.
Especially when I helpfully unfolded it post-coitus. Websites have FAQ’s, appliances have manuals, why must the intricacies of lesbian dating practices be learned on the fly?
They probably own some sort of quirky hat and wear it often. - Because scene girls are basically teenagers who never grew up. Well next thing you know it’s going to be about you.
They’re desperate to “sit at the cool table” so will invest an incredible amount of time and effort into staying with the in crowd... Not to mention they only ever keep other Scene Queens as company. How To Spot - They’re clearly straight but have made a token attempt at looking the part (wearing Converse, hair up) and have trotted down to your local gay bar to throw you off the scent.
I went from “on the fence” to over the fence in a hurry on that one just because I felt like her decision to allow me to pay was in bad taste. For instance, if yours is an old-school Butch/Femme pairing, you can bank on the fact that the Femme is most likely waiting for the Butch to make the first move. Men have been complaining about that one for centuries. Then there are other questions to consider based on a well you actually know each other. Do you trust her enough to go into her home blindly?