The first reaction in your mind is going to be self-protective, accompanied by fear.
When you discover your husband using online dating sites, you will automatically imagine the worst, that he is following through and is probably meeting other women. That is probably not happening, and it is not too late for your marriage, even if it is. Reactions, as you recall from biology, are instinctive responses with one purpose: to save your life.
But not everyone can pull off a selfie, and those who do should probably take them sparingly, if academic research is to be believed.
For men, professional head shots and photos with facial hair were rated the highest and, for women, photos showing the person singing or playing an instrument, playing a sport or wearing a bikini were rated the highest, according to a survey of 2,000 profiles by The Grade dating app.
I wrote this article about a husband using dating sites before the Ashley Madison outing that recently happened.