Rather than planning a long visit, it’s best to have a brief, casual meeting with few expectations.
One of the most common questions divorced parents ask me is: When should I introduce my new partner to my children?
My best answer is to take your time dating after divorce and don’t introduce your new love to your kids if you are dating casually.
It can be a form of courtship that consists of social activities done by the couple.
The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time.
As Tony Soprano would say, "fuggetaboutit." Write them off. However, if the relationship is wonderful - marriage ensues. Learn to use an iron instead of being seen in public resembling an unmade bed. This happens as the ovaries struggle to keep up with the needs of an aging woman's body.