Ask questions about the wife/husband, how long did the marriage last, how long has he/she been a widow/widower.Some widow/widowers say that dates who ask them about their departed spouse say made it easier for them.
A study conducted in 1996 found that, by 25 months after a spouse's death, 61% of widowers (men) were either remarried or in a new romance compared to just 19% of widows (women), but this is by no means a case of 'one size fits all'.
Patience is therefore of the essence in the early days of dating, as both you and your new partner will be trying to weigh up if this is a road you are ready to go down."The widow or widower is either ready to move on or they're not.
He is the father of her 2 daughters and although there was some distance in their marraige he was her "best friend".
My own feelings seem sort of vain to me -- Love is not a competition, and maybe it's silly to feel threatened by someone deceased. " I feel like she could be the Love of my Life and she assures me that she totally loves and adores me.
This could lead you to question that previous relationship. Claudia Jean, creator of a seminar series on a mid-life dating, says "there may also be a lingering sense of ‘cheating’ that must be worked through.