From the standpoint of anthropology and sociology, dating is linked with other institutions such as marriage and the family which have also been changing rapidly and which have been subject to many forces, including advances in technology and medicine.For men seeking international dating opportunities, it’s important to realize that some women are not accustomed to an American style of dating.This candid communication style might not sit well with awkward, bumbling Brits — especially men — who tend to recoil from conversations about their feelings.
But the key is that everything is talkable, and open communication is the key to navigating the relationship scene in a country that we are not originally from.
If your expat game plan includes finding love then you’ll need to wrap your brain around romancing the American way. S.-style dating looks a lot like it does elsewhere: find someone you don’t hate on sight and who you strongly suspect isn’t a serial killer, then arrange to meet for some kind of shared food or beverage experience. It’s like a job or house hunt, which means investigating more than one prospect at a time.
If you are familiar with computer programming terminology, you can liken dating to a sub-routine that has been added to the system of courtship.
Over the course of this two-part article, I would like to trace how this change occurred, especially concentrating on the origin of this dating "subroutine." Let me begin by briefly suggesting four cultural forces that assisted in moving from, as Alan Carlson puts it, the more predictable cultural script that existed for several centuries, to the multi-layered system and (I think most would agree) the more ambiguous courtship system that includes "the date." The first, and probably most important change we find in courtship practices in the West occurred in the early 20th century when courtship moved from public acts conducted in private spaces (for instance, the family porch or parlor) to private or individual acts conducted in public spaces, located primarily in the entertainment world, as Beth Bailey argues in her book, .
Overall, Americans are very very cautious on the dating scene.