Their partner says they are committed to the relationship, but their behavior tells a different story. Every time we commit and get closer, it feels like they put us down or tell us we are needy. If you feel like this in your relationship, you’ll most likely dating an emotionally unavailable partner whose life experiences have taught them to avoid intimacy.
The science of love labels this person an avoidant.
But in their minds, they are a non-needy, independent individual.
However, others get into the same pattern of being clingy again and again, continuing to push people away with their behavior and potentially good relationship go south for the same reasons over and over.
Ironically, even if you are normally not a needy or a clingy lover, the more you like someone the more likely you are to behave clingy and needy, as you will likely be afraid to lose that very special person that you know is so hard to meet and attract.
I drove her back home, exchanged numbers on the way, and she loved my songs playlist. I was not going to speak to my girlfriend for 48 hours. [Read: 15 subtle signs of an emotionally controlling boyfriend] She’s on my mind. I woke up in the morning and stretched out to a morning hard boy. When we’re told to avoid something, that’s the one thing we really want.