Neuman recalls, "This 13-year-old kid once said to me, 'I feel, now that my parents are separated, that Idon't exist.'"While most children don't articulate their feelings so strongly -- in fact, most shrug or say "okay"if asked how they're coping with a parental split -- therapists who work with children of divorce agreethat divorce makes kids question who they are, where they came from, and where their lives are headed.
That's not an argument for or against divorce, for or against dating.
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Most middle-years children need some time to adjust to their parents' separation before their mother or father begins having new romantic interests.
In general, a good guideline is about a six-month wait from the time you separate from your spouse to the time you start to date, although dating will often occur sooner.
This group so easily formed a family and lived happily ever after. There are tantrums, power struggles, sleepless nights and runny noses to contend with, so it's important to take things slowly when children are involved.