Is he open to the kind of dating or relationship situation you want?If not, then it’s probably best for you both to go your separate ways. In both cases, we’re hopeless enough to believe we are the beneficiary of fate’s generous hand when we were really the victim of a targeted campaign perpetrated by exploiting our own perceptible cluelessness. The old “the first step is admission” saying is trite but true. In the future, as soon as the player slithers toward you, flashing that million-dollar smile that makes you blush like a school girl, run like a track star on steroids. Neither were the fifty chicks that came before you or the fifty new fools that will follow in your footsteps immediately after he leaves your bed. Neither satisfaction nor a single one of those so-called nine lives brought him back. And for goodness’ sake, don’t tell the player (of all people) how hurt and damaged you are from your past relationship. If he asks about your past relationships, tell him all of your former boyfriends were exactly like him.
” There’s nothing wrong with casual dating– as long as it’s what both of you are looking for.
You wonder, “Is he open to a relationship or am I wasting my time with a player?
With the under-confident women (the wallflowers), he only need to make her feel “special,” you know, pretty.
native and an alumnus of the University of the District of Columbia and University of Maryland where she earned a B. A good friend of mine—a reformed player—once told me that in his hound dog days, he could walk into a room of women, sniff out his prey, and easily schedule two hook-ups before the night’s end. He targeted the extremes—the under-confident and overconfident.
You’re unlikely to “reform” him and it’s going to be frustrating and possibly heartbreaking if you try.