However, what is TRULY devastatingly attractive in a man, is when he is not (even too consciously) aware of his own attractiveness. Just look past the physical and 'connect' with the real human being. In fact, I've found that many men appreciate this sense of 'being seen for who they really are' and not being treated differently to anyone else. Nowadays, I would never think of competing the thin, sultry Barbie types. Good-looking folks have insecurities, too, believe it or not. Course, I'm not the kind of person who's intimidated by anything, either...dunno'...mebbe that's part of it, too.
Very physically goodlooking/cute men have the power of physical attraction. ) whereas its the plainer guys/less handsome men who are all hung up on a woman's looks (or apparent lack thereof and may even point it out to you). One of the methods I've learned when in the company of real goodlookers is... Completely gets me over my nerves, levels the field, and I and the guy are much more relaxed as a result. For me personally I don't have any problems talking to anyone. Believe it or not, I was quite attractive in my 20's and dated a couple of guys that girls would flirt with and drool over in my presence. We're all just people, each of us doing the best we can with what we've been blessed to work with.
"Mara, none of the mothers talk to me, I smile and act friendly, but they just stare at me, and I feel ignored." When she asked how I dealt with people staring at me, I quickly told her they are only staring at me because they are wondering how someone could possibly wear some of my outfits in public. "Women are intimidated by your beauty." I don't want to believe it, but women measure themselves against other women's attractiveness.
I thought about what she said, and a lightbulb went off -- well, it was more the group of cyclists staring and drooling in our direction like we were naked, or her, rather -- whenit all came together. Because of this, making friends with someone more attractive, they fear, will somehow diminish their own attractiveness.
Seriously, I am also guilty of being threatened by other women's beauty. I accompanied my brother Seth, an actor, to an audition for Pepsi in Los Angeles.