That cozy warm space of dating your way will find you.10. You've heard it before: Trust is the basis of everything.
"Within the gay community, negative stereotypes reinforce the belief that gay relationships are based solely on physical attraction, and that once youth starts to fade, we are unlikely to have any real or lasting relationships," says Rik Isensee, author of Are You Ready? And remember that the most important characteristics — loyalty, humor, intelligence and compassion — are ageless.
If you think you're too old for love or you stopped believing that you can find someone to love who'll love you back, think again. Focus on what you've gained — rich experiences, accomplishments, survivor skills and wisdom.
The latter two frequently play gay or effeminate characters in movies, while funny, hurts the Asian male image as successful, sexy, intelligent and desirable men in the American society.
John Cho and Kumar Patel from the Harold & Kumar series are the only recent actors who paint Asian males in a good light, pot smoking aside, they show that Asian males can actually be normal, good-look, attractive guys to girls outside of their race, without always needing to resort to martial arts, as other Asian actors who are forever stuck in the Bruce Lee genre (the hero, but who never gets the girl).
So, instead of fighting over the newest man meat on Grindr, I recommend these practical tips for gay men:1. Plus, being honest with yourself is a great launching pad for honesty in your relationship. Do you always say: "Gay dating is such a chore," or, "Gay men just want sex," or "Every gay guy I meet only wants to talk about themselves? "For example, "Gay dating is such a chore." So What? "If it's not fun, then I might as well just stay home." So what? or at least that's what the replay of the tape your listening to is saying. Finally, let the fun-loving gay dater in you out to play. Just because "Bryce" dates like a mad man doesn't mean he's more datable than you.