Keep in mind, no matter the nature of your relationship, no-one has the right to abuse you!Because relationships exist on a spectrum, it can be hard to tell when a behavior crosses the line from healthy to unhealthy or even abusive.Some people will tell you that it's because they have a domineering personality, or low self-esteem, or a bad temper, or because they see women as possessions, or because they abuse substances.
The manner in which we react to our spouses is often related to the attachment we had with our own parents while we were growing up.
Perhaps the attachment was not safe, or maybe our parents were not responsive to our needs or minimized or ignored our needs.
These behaviors may violate a person’s boundaries, be emotionally abusive, or otherwise controlling.
“Small controlling behaviors might not seem like a big deal at the time, but they can escalate and eventually put someone at risk,” added Pinero.
“For example, demanding to know where someone is at all times, touching or pinching parts of someone's body in public when they’ve made it clear it’s unwanted, or controlling what type of clothes someone wears—these are all abusive behaviors that violate someone’s boundaries.” The laws about sexual violence and dating violence vary by state and situation.